The World of Transactions.
My friend wrote a beautiful poem saying that maybe she should
put herself in an auction and see how high the price goes. It was fascinating and
thought-provoking. Our conversation didn’t
go on for long as we switched to something casual. It had me thinking and led
me to what I am writing right now.
Our world is a world of transactions. In which you must give
something to get something. Everything is a pitch, a sales pitch. Even what I am
writing right now is a sales pitch. In this world, to get as much as we want, we
need to get the value of what we sell as high as possible. Our demand will only
increase by how much we are valued in the eyes of those we are trying to sell
to.
As we went along, our sales pitches involved the external world
more than its innate nature. We started using ads to cover up our deficits. We used
makeup for all the rough spots and used brands to categorize ourselves with them.
This has become our norm today. We identify whose brand we
wear and associate whom we stand with, with who we are. We started
a game of chasing what people valued and went after them to make them ours. Letting
go of one and getting another, seeking out different clothing to try to stand
out, and running after social media to see whom to follow and not.
I am not saying that getting the new stuff, buying a brand,
and following the market are harmful per se. But when we start to identify with
what we have around us, we lose ourselves in the process then we are at a loss.
Our search for our identity should not be to the outside but within; It should be brought into life from underneath our covers and brought to light from the darkness that hovers. We should stop the endless pursuit of external validation. We should put the price tags on ourselves and sell, not the other way around.
A Ralph Lauren shirt is sold for 500 dollars, not because it is made of fancy material that’s not on the market. Most of the time, it is probably made from some cotton and polyester like any other shirt. The reason it is priced that high is because of the name printed on it-Ralph Lauren: he made himself valuable enough that any cloth with his name is.
We should be working inside out to build our identity, not
outside in. We fall into this trap; it is in our very nature to look for human
validation. We need it, there is no doubt, but it should not be at the cost of our
self-validation.
We don’t become gold because we eat out of gold-plated dishes,
drink out of one, or feed with one. We enjoy those things when we become valuable
enough to deserve those things. The life we want should not be dictated by what
we see on social media or what celebrities do with their lives. It should be
what we feel our lives should be. If you want to live out in the woods, in
solitude, then do it.
So, let us go deep within ourselves and write our price tags;
let us go deep within ourselves and find our precious jewels; let us go deep within
ourselves and define our lives. Let us go work on ourselves until no amount of external
validation of who we are will degrade it.
Let us be all
we can be.✌
Let me know what you think in the comments below. 👇
Mesmerizing. Keep on doing the good job.
ReplyDeleteIncredible!!
ReplyDelete"...it is in our very nature to look for human validation. We need it, there is no doubt, but it should not be at the cost of our self-validation"
ReplyDeleteThank you for this amazing message